There’s dependence, independence and inter-dependence.
Dependence is quite easy to grasp; everyone has been dependent.
When you require and rely on someone to get by without making an effort whatsoever, that’s dependence staring you right in the face.
It’s easy to be dependent; just soak yourself in laziness and do nothing.
Yet, not everyone has been independent. Or interdependent which is mutuality.
It’s a long walk from dependence to independence, but it’s achievable and not far-reaching.
There are independent 19 year olds or 22 year olds in the world and in Nigeria.
Talking about age which I see as more a number than a yardstick for wisdom, let’s think about a 56 year old man or woman.
Wouldn’t it flummox you if you see a 56 year old man who is still dependent and warms up to others just to get by?
“What has he been doing all his life?” That’s the question that will escape your lips.
Or you’ll go straight for a below-the-belt punch, “Useless man.”